I know a lot of you would be wondering how this topic came about or why i have chosen to write or talk about it. Truth is, i cant lie, i am doing this out of fear....seriously, the kinds of stories i hear about these days ehn.....o boy e dey make afraid to catch me ooooo.
In the African society, marriage na like the biggest event for a woman, abi na the biggest achievement sef, and as most grown females know, when you get to a certain age, people will just start to look you with corner eye, some no go even shame to ask you directly, 'when we go come chop rice and drink wine na', even your parents sef, Which day here, we held a family meeting in my house based on end of year and new year maras, na im my mama from no where say she get topic to raise ooo, say when she go start to get grandchildren, if una see the seriousness wey she take talk am ehn, and as she dey talk am, na me she dey look ayan ayan, o boy, cold wey catch me when i hear am, no get part two oooo, but based on say na only she talk, na im i answer her say " maale make i just tell you, no just dey expect anything o because e no go happen anytime soon....na im my papa wey no dey put mouth for this kind thing before start to talk im own oooo......mouth no just gree me open again oooo, i just carry my ekwakwa enter my room before dem go play love on-top my head.....and am still in my early twenties oooo.
Now, with or without pressure, most girls look forward to their wedding day and marriage, but it seems the sanctity of marriage is gone, like seriously, men and women cant be trusted anymore, a guy can have two lives with two different women and wont even feel bad about it, a lot of people cheat freely these days even while married, and the one wey pain me pass, is when a man hits a woman and isnt even sorry about it, na dat 1 fear me pass ooo, i have heard stories where men totally ignore their wives not even saying one word to them for weeks and while they were dating he couldn't wait to be with her every single time. Don't men want to be responsible anymore, are there any more good men in Nigeria, of course the women are not blameless but then........ abeg this whole relationship thing both marriage and dating scares the shit outta me, we see so many pictures on bella naija and we cant wait for our own day but what about what comes after, should i be tiptoeing in my house after marriage, waiting for when my husband will turn into someone else, or waiting for when i find out he doesn't find me attractive anymore and cheats, waiting for when he totally ignores me and cant bear to say a word to me anymore........instead of leaving that kind of life, wont i be better off single, i mean, like why bother, and some people will say when your husband doesn't pay attention to you, ignore him too, then what exactly does this institution represent.....please all you married couple especially the men( i no carry water for mouth dey talk am), yes the MEN, please and please give yourself brain, you are setting bad examples for your children and younger ones and karma will always be there to give you what you deserve......
Sha, i also know that not all men and not all marriages are bad, kudos to those putting effort and trying....but like they say bad news travel faster, so please check your goddamn selves because i am tired of hearing these stories....SHIKENA
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